Posted on July 17, 2020 by Permelia Parham - Connections
It’s Summer 2020!
How is your summer so far?
Are you doing ‘summer’ differently this year?
The summer of 2020 will historically be one of less travel, less family and friends visiting, less events like weddings and family reunions.
I am staying home this summer and not travelling to visit family and friends.
I am grateful and blessed to live on Vancouver Island.
My home is 3 blocks from our community beach.
I’m going to enJOY my sunshine beach walks, beach picnic dinners and take time to breathe in the wonderful sea air.
What are you doing this summer?
Let me know by leaving your comments at the end of this blog.
Let’s connect and chat about how you are “doing summer 2020 differently” this year.
Posted on December 11, 2019 by Permelia Parham - Connections
What does FAMILY mean to you?
Especially at Christmas?
Family to me is of course my immediate family ~ my Husband, my 2 Daughters, my Son and my Daughter-in-law, my 2 Stepsons and now I can add Granddaughter and Great Grandson.
My Sister and her Daughter, my Niece and her Husband and 3 Daughters, my Great Nieces.
But family is more to me than who we are related to by birth, blood or marriage.
I consider my best friends as family ~ they are a great support to me.
I have business acquaintances who are like friends ~ they support me in my business and I support them in theirs.
One definition of Family is ~ those who accept you no matter who you are, where there’s no judgment and where there is only unconditional love.
I like that definition and especially unconditional love.
From my Family to your Family
We wish you a very Merry and Joyful Christmas
Posted on November 14, 2019 by Permelia Parham - Connections
Remembrance Day has always been a very significant day in my family.
My maternal grandfather, Frank Goddard served as a soldier at Vimy Ridge in World War I.
My father, Edward Parham, was a sailor for the British Navy in World War II and also served in the Korean War twice for the Canadian Navy.
For the last few years on November 11th, my sister, her daughter (my niece), visit our parents and grandparents graves to remember them and thank our father and grandfather for their service so we can live in a peaceful country.
We also thank our mother and grandmother because they stayed at home looking after the children and kept the home ready for their husband’s return from the wars.
Here are a few facts about Remembrance Day:
- It was first observed in 1919 throughout the British Commonwealth. It was originally called “Armistice Day” to commemorate the armistice agreement that ended the First World War on Monday, November 11, 1918, at 11 a.m. — the eleventh hour of the eleventh day of the eleventh month.
- Every year on November 11, Canadians pause in a moment of silence to honour and remember the men and women who have served, and continue to serve Canada during times of war, conflict and peace.
Here are a few facts about The Poppy:
- The poppy is the symbol of Remembrance Day.
- The poppy became widespread in Europe after soils in France and Belgium became rich in lime from debris and rubble from the fighting during the First World War. These little red flowers also flourished around the gravesites of the war dead.
- In 1915, John McCrae, a doctor serving with the Canadian Artillery, famously made note of this phenomenon in his poem, In Flanders Fields.
- On Saturday November 9, 1918, two days before the Armistice, Moina Michael was on duty in the reading room where she read John McCrae’s poem. After reading it, Moina made a personal pledge to always wear the red poppy of Flanders Fields as a sign of remembrance and for “keeping the faith with all who died.”
- In 1920, Anna Guérin (the French Poppy Lady) was inspired by Moina Michael’s idea of the poppy as a memorial flower and felt that the scope of the Memorial Poppy could be expanded to help the needy. In 1921, Madame Guérinvisited Canada and convinced the Great War Veterans Association of Canada (predecessor to the Royal Canadian Legion) to adopt the poppy as a symbol of remembrance in aid of fundraising; which it did on July 5th of that year.
- Today, the Poppy Campaign is one of the Royal Canadian Legion’s most important programs. The money raised from donations provides direct assistance for Veterans in financial distress, as well as funding for medical equipment, medical research, home services, long term care facilities and many other purposes.
Let us all remember and be grateful for those brave men and women who served in order for us to live in a peaceful country.
Posted on January 8, 2018 by Permelia Parham - Connections
What does Joy mean to you?
It means many things to me, watching my children playing and laughing when they were little. Now they are adults, I find joy is the great conversations we have.
Spending time with my friends ~ going for coffee or lunch.
How do we keep joy in our lives?
Robert Holden who has written books such as Be Happy & Loveability says we should make this affirmation every day:
“Today I will follow my joy”. In his online course “A Daily Dose of Happiness”, he says that happiness or joy is good for you and it’s good for everyone else too. It helps you and others be friendlier, more loving, forgiving and kind.
Wow – that’s pretty good! A daily affirmation about being joyful!
So how do we be joyful and stay joyful?
I find being grateful helps me stay in a state of joy.
And it’s being grateful for small things ~ like the sun is shining or I found a great parking spot on a busy street.
Of course I’m grateful for the big things in my life too ~ like my home and my wonderful husband. But sometimes we take these for granted, so it’s always a good reminder to thank those who make our lives joyful.
Being of service ~ how do we do that?
- Smiling at strangers . . . . wherever you meet them
- Helping anyone who needs something . . . a door opened, groceries carried
- Saying thank you and giving a compliment ~ sincerely meaning what you say
Having positive thoughts, changing my negative thoughts to positive ones.