Author: Permelia Parham

Being in Balance


Are you in Balance?


What is Balance?

The dictionary definition is: a mental or emotional steadiness; to bring in harmony or proportion.


How do you keep yourself In Balance? How do you sustain a mental or emotional steadiness? How do you maintain harmony in your life?


I love this quote from Dr. Wayne Dyer.

“The single most important tool to being in balance is knowing that you and you alone are responsible . . .”


Here is another great quote from the painter Thomas Kinkade:

“Balance, peace and joy are the fruits of a successful life.”


I believe having balance in my life is very important. Each day I give myself “me time” in the morning to do yoga mediation, spiritual reading and study. Taking time to ease into my day helps keep the rest of my day In Balance.


Reply to this blog and let me know how you keep balance in your life.





What does FAMILY mean to you?

Especially at Christmas?


Family to me is of course my immediate family ~ my Husband, my 2 Daughters, my Son and my Daughter-in-law, my 2 Stepsons and now I can add Granddaughter and Great Grandson.

My Sister and her Daughter, my Niece and her Husband and 3 Daughters, my Great Nieces.


But family is more to me than who we are related to by birth, blood or marriage.

I consider my best friends as family ~ they are a great support to me.

I have business acquaintances who are like friends ~ they support me in my business and I support them in theirs.


One definition of Family is ~ those who accept you no matter who you are, where there’s no judgment and where there is only unconditional  love.


I like that definition and especially unconditional love.


From my Family to your Family 

We wish you a very Merry and Joyful Christmas


Always Remember


Remembrance Day has always been a very significant day in my family.

My maternal grandfather, Frank Goddard served as a soldier at Vimy Ridge in World War I.

My father, Edward Parham, was a sailor for the British Navy in World War II and also served in the Korean War twice for the Canadian Navy.


For the last few years on November 11th, my sister, her daughter (my niece), visit our parents and grandparents graves to remember them and thank our father and grandfather for their service so we can live in a peaceful country.


We also thank our mother and grandmother because they stayed at home looking after the children and kept the home ready for their husband’s return from the wars.


Here are a few facts about Remembrance Day:

  • It was first observed in 1919 throughout the British Commonwealth. It was originally called “Armistice Day” to commemorate the armistice agreement that ended the First World War on Monday, November 11, 1918, at 11 a.m. — the eleventh hour of the eleventh day of the eleventh month.
  • Every year on November 11, Canadians pause in a moment of silence to honour and remember the men and women who have served, and continue to serve Canada during times of war, conflict and peace.


Here are a few facts about The Poppy:

  • The poppy is the symbol of Remembrance Day.
  • The poppy became widespread in Europe after soils in France and Belgium became rich in lime from debris and rubble from the fighting during the First World War. These little red flowers also flourished around the gravesites of the war dead.
  • In 1915, John McCrae, a doctor serving with the Canadian Artillery, famously made note of this phenomenon in his poem, In Flanders Fields.
  • On Saturday November 9, 1918, two days before the Armistice, Moina Michael was on duty in the reading room where she read John McCrae’s poem. After reading it, Moina made a personal pledge to always wear the red poppy of Flanders Fields as a sign of remembrance and for “keeping the faith with all who died.”
  • In 1920, Anna Guérin (the French Poppy Lady) was inspired by Moina Michael’s idea of the poppy as a memorial flower and felt that the scope of the Memorial Poppy could be expanded to help the needy. In 1921, Madame Guérinvisited Canada and convinced the Great War Veterans Association of Canada (predecessor to the Royal Canadian Legion) to adopt the poppy as a symbol of remembrance in aid of fundraising; which it did on July 5th of that year.
  • Today, the Poppy Campaign is one of the Royal Canadian Legion’s most important programs. The money raised from donations provides direct assistance for Veterans in financial distress, as well as funding for medical equipment, medical research, home services, long term care facilities and many other purposes.


Let us all remember and be grateful for those brave men and women who served in order for us to live in a peaceful country.





During the Fall and Christmas Holiday Seasons we do a lot of sharing.

This time of year is special and it makes me think of all the things we share:

  1. Meals together
  2. Time together
  3. Gifts
  4. Our homes with family and friends

It is a wonderful feeling to enjoy these activities with others who enjoy them as well.

I love to spend and share time with family and friends who we are not able to visit regularly. Making time to spend an afternoon or evening with them is very special.



Being grateful is very important.

Here are some great quotes:

~ Have an Attitude of Gratitude

~ Gratitude changes everything

~ I am grateful for all that I have. For all that I am, and for all that is.

~ Brené Brown says, “There is no JOY without gratitude.”


Gratitude has a high energetic vibrational frequency.

How do you practice gratitude?



Setting an Intention


September is a great time to set or re-set our Intentions.


What are Intentions and do you set them?

Firstly, what is an intention?

The dictionary definition is: mentally determining to carry out an action or actions in the future.


To me setting an intention is a very powerful.

Lynne McTaggart in her book, The Intention Experiment describes events where people come together in violent areas of the world to set an intention for peace with amazing results.

Now that’s powerful!


Dr. Wayne Dyer says: “Our Intention Creates Our Reality”.


Setting an intention is being clear and focused. “Energy Flows where Intention Goes”.

Setting an intention with myself daily keeps me focused on the positive aspects I want in my life.

For example one of my intentions is to live my life to the fullest ~ often that doesn’t come naturally. I need to set my focus on this intention.


For me that means being engaged in life; being curious about people and events; to really listen to those I interact with; being present in the moment.


Setting an intention is awesome ~ that’s the easy part. Putting the intention into action ~ that is where some work is required.

I believe the work is worth it. I live a very fulfilled life and it is due to setting clear intentions.


I love this quote: “Intention + Action = Magic”

I don’t know about you, but I do believe in Magic ~ I love having magical things happen in my life!


I’ll share with you the intention I set for my day ~ I say this every morning at the end of my morning yoga meditation ~ “I set the Intention that my day will flow with ease and grace, joy and peace, love and abundance.”

So why not try it ~ set an intention and have a magic in your life!



The Law of Attraction is a Science



The Law of Attraction is The Law of Vibration.


It is the Science of attracting more of what we want and less of what we don’t want.

For more than a hundred years, science has shown us that everything is energy.

Energy = Vibration. A very simple concept.

The Law of Vibration is working ALL the time whether we are consciously thinking of it or not. The vibration or vibe we give out is the vibe we get back.


Michael Losier who wrote the Law of Attraction handbook tells us that we need to be conscious of our WORDS which become our THOUGHTS. Our thoughts send out VIBES and depending on the type of vibe we send out ~ we get RESULTS.


The Law of Attraction vibration is a feeling ~  we need to stay excited about our thoughts ~ our words ~ our vibes ~ our results. For our best life!

A great sentence is: “I’m in the process of . . .”  This helps us keep our vibration high for the best results!


The Law of  Vibration is a Science!

The Law of Attraction works! 


Do You Have Limiting Beliefs?



What are Limiting Beliefs?


Limiting beliefs are beliefs that hold us back from being the best we can be.


We are raised with family beliefs and society dictates we should have certain beliefs.


When we become adults we should question if these beliefs still hold true for us.   

I know some of the beliefs I was raised with are not the beliefs I have now.

I’ll give you an example, my maternal grandmother, who I’m named after believed if people were wealthy, they were greedy and not nice people.

As an adult, I know lots of wonderful people who are wealthy and definitely not greedy, they give financially as well as their time to their communities.

That limiting belief does not fit with me anymore, so I changed it by incorporating a new belief and releasing the old belief. 


If you have found some beliefs that no longer fit for you, I offer individual sessions to take you through the process of changing the limiting belief ~ negative vibrational energy to the new belief ~ positive vibrational energy. This new belief is one you can embrace to serve you for a happier, healthier and more successful life. 


Let’s embrace our beliefs to be the Best we can Be!



Happiness Always

What does happiness mean to you?


I like Robert Holden’s definition of happiness.

He says that Happiness is a gift and not just for ourselves. It’s a gift to our family; our friends; our colleagues; our acquaintances.


Happiness is good for each of us and it’s good for everyone else too.


Studies prove that happiness is more than just a pleasurable emotion. Happiness has essential properties that bring out the best in us and helps us to be genuinely friendly, loving, forgiving and kind.


I get that ~ when I experience happiness I’m in a really good mood and I want everyone I meet to be happy too. It’s kind of infectious.


When I’m happy I can’t stop smiling. Have you noticed when you smile at someone ~ even if you don’t know them ~ they will smile back?


I love watching children playing ~ that is pure happiness. Children experience happiness naturally and easily.


I have a great grandson who is pure joy as he plays. I love watching and playing with him. His smile and laugh are the definition of happiness. I can tell it’s his natural way to be.


I love this quote by John Lennon:

“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’.

They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.”



If you haven’t already ~ I encourage you to give yourself the gift of happiness.

Happiness Always!

Peaceful Meditation


What does meditation mean to you?

To me is means sitting in a comfortable position and just BEing.

Try to remember we are Beings, not Doings.


There is no right or wrong way to meditate.

Taking a few moments or as long as you have to sit in stillness ~ is meditating.


There are a variety of styles of meditation ~ each with different strengths and benefits.

Here are a couple of examples:

Metta, is a type of meditation also known as loving-kindness meditation, which begins with

developing kind thoughts and feelings toward yourself.

Through practice, people learn to extend this kindness and forgiveness externally, first to friends,

then acquaintances and ultimately enemies.


Kirtan Kriya is a method of meditation that combines a mantra or chant with repetitive motion

of the fingers to focus thoughts. It improves the ability to perform memory tasks.


There are many great health benefits of meditation:

  • Reduces Stress
  • Reduces Anxiety
  • Promotes Emotional Health – improves self-image, creates a positive outlook on life
  • Enhances self- awareness – helps to develop a stronger understanding of ourselves
  • Assists us to grow into our best self
  • Improves Sleep


Meditation is something everyone can do to improve their mental and emotional health.

And remember ~ there is no right or wrong way to meditate.

Here is a simple meditation:

If you are just learning how to meditate ~ here is a very simple and easy meditation exercise:

  1. Sit comfortably in an upright position with a straight back.
  2. Close your eyes.
  3. Breathe in for 4 counts, hold your breath for 4 counts, breathe out for 4 counts and hold for 4 counts. Repeat.
  4. Focus your attention on the breath and on how the body moves with each inhalation and exhalation. Notice the movement of your body as you breathe. Observe your chest, shoulders, rib cage, and belly.
  5. If your mind wanders, return your focus back to your breath.

Maintain this meditation practice for two to three minutes to start, and then try it for longer periods. Slowly work up to 5 counts and then 6 counts.

EnJOY your meditation time!


Practicing Forgiveness


Forgiveness is really an act of letting go:

  • letting go of anger
  • letting go of hatred
  • letting go of bitterness
  • letting go of any negative thoughts we may be carrying around


We can forgive and let go without even encountering the person we want to forgive.


However, forgiveness is a process. We can recognize that staying resentful only keeps the anger or bitterness alive. Thoughts of resentment, anger, hatred, bitterness represent slow, debilitating energies that will dis-empower you. Releasing these energies will give us more peace.


Dr. Wayne Dyer says forgiving others is essential for spiritual growth. Eventually forgiveness progresses to the heart which is spiritually liberating.


We also need to forgive ourselves, to honor what is past, to love and respect it.

Look back and say, “That’s what I needed to do, that’s the person I needed to be at that time in my life. I did that, and I’ve learned from it. Now I can move on.”


A Course In Miracles Quotes:

Notice each day whether you are choosing to live in fear or love.

Fear can keep you disconnected from the loving presence inside of you.

Fear binds the world. Forgiveness sets it free.


These are 2 very powerful thoughts:

Forgiveness is the key to happiness.

Forgiveness is my function as the light of the world.